So, you’re expecting, but what should you do about a baby shower? Since it’s no longer safe to gather with our closest friends and loved ones, expecting moms have had to be creative. While they’ve come up with some great ideas, they’ve also had some not-so-great ones—like trying to have a drive-by baby shower.
Although this trend has been a popular one, turning your baby shower into a drive-by might not be as fun as you think.
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What is a Drive-by Shower?
The premise of a drive-by baby shower is simple. The expecting mother invites all her guests to the shower and then sits outside. The guests will drive up, hop out of the car for a few minutes, leave their presents, and then be on their way. Most guests are in and out so quickly that they can just leave the car running, or drop gifts in a box out the car window
At first glance, the drive-through shower might seem like a nice alternative to the traditional baby shower—but in practice, it can be awkward and cringe-worthy. The expecting mother sits on her lawn chair like it’s a throne, waiting to receive her subjects. Meanwhile, it can make the guests feel as if it’s their present that matters, not their presence.
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Why it’s a Bad Idea
Besides making for an awkward afternoon, here are a few reasons why you might want to avoid a drive-by shower:
1. You Leave Out the Guests
Although the baby shower is supposed to be about the mother and her soon-to-be bundle of joy, the guests play a large role too. Showers are about more than just presents—they’re an opportunity for friends and family to connect with each other.
No Time for Games
But, at a drive-by, there’s no time for connection or fun. It’s not as if your guests can play games or bring food. Some sites have suggested that guests fill out a birthday bet and leave it, but that’s not very engaging. In fact, guests can hardly even have a conversation with the expecting Mama! They might have time to say, “Congratulations,” but the entire experience will probably feel cold and impersonal.
Even if you only invite local guests, driving twenty or thirty minutes to drop off a present is a lot, and it probably won’t feel like a party to the new mom or the guests. You’ve also got to be careful that your dropbox doesn’t become a gift-grab for anyone walking by.
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2. Drive-by Showers are Short-Lived
Traditional baby showers usually last two or three hours, which makes up for all the extra time you spent setting it up. A drive-by shower, however, can take just as much planning, but they’re fairly short-lived. You’ll probably receive all your guests within an hour or less, and then spend the rest of the time cleaning up (or trying to haul your presents inside). Is it really worth the effort you’ll spend on planning and decorating?
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3. Too Much Attention on the Block
A regular baby shower is fairly private, with the party happening inside. Unfortunately, drive-bys can make your shower feel like a public event. Since you’re outside, you invite attention from your neighbors or anybody who happens to cruise by.
Not a lot of new parents want that kind of attention—especially if you’re just sitting on the lawn in a fancy dress. And, since everyone will know you’re receiving presents, you won’t be able to leave the drop-box unattended for a moment. If you do, a sneaky passerby might decide to take a few things for themselves.
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The nice thing about having a WebBabyShower is that you can pick and choose who gets to see you. There’s no uninvited attention, and introvert mothers can make the shower as private as they want.
4. You’ve Got to Think About Location
Another problem that drive-by baby showers present is their location. It’s easy if the expecting Mama lives in the suburbs, and there’s no traffic, but what about a main road or a high traffic thoroughfare? Most people on a busy road aren’t going to want to wait ten minutes for you to drop off your gift and exchange pleasantries.
On the other end of the spectrum, narrow gravel roads out in the country aren’t set up for tons of traffic, either. At the very least, you’ll need a relative or friend to play traffic cop, which can always cause more drama.
Geography Isn’t in Your Favor
We’ve talked about how location can be a detriment, but what about those family and friends that live across the country? They might make the trip if it’s a traditional shower, but you can’t expect them to go all that way for something that won’t last an hour.
If you’re having a WebBabyShower, geography doesn’t matter. Your closest friends and family might be halfway across the world, but as long as they have internet access, they can attend your party. A virtual baby shower even includes those who might not have been able to attend a regular baby shower—so, you can have an unlimited guest list.
Picture it: you’ve spent a couple of weeks planning out the perfect drive-by shower. You’ve invited everyone, set up decorations—and then it rains. Since they happen outdoors, drive-by showers are dependent on the weather, and that’s not something you can control. A little drizzle probably won’t keep everyone away, but pouring rain or thunderstorms can soak you, damage your gifts, and scare off your guests.
With a virtual WebBabyShower, the weather isn’t even a factor. Whether it’s rain, sleet, snow, or shine, you can always log on and have your party.
6. Cleaning Up the Aftermath
After you’ve received all your guests, you’ve got to deal with the worst part of a drive-by shower: the clean-up. Unlike a regular shower, you might have to look for trash that’s been blown away, and haul everything back inside. If you’ve made any food for your guests, you’ll need to deal with that, and not all cuisine tastes good after a couple of hours in the sun.
Let’s not forget about lawn chairs, tables you might’ve set up, and all those gifts that your guests have dropped off.
At least with a virtual shower, there’s not a lot of clean-up, if any. You might put up a few decorations, but since nobody’s coming by, you don’t have to decorate your whole house or hold the shower at a venue.
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Don’t Jump on the Bandwagon
Drive-by baby showers look fun when you see the cutesy decorations on Pinterest, but if you’ve ever had to attend one of these “parties,” you know how awkward they can be. Drive-by showers might be a trend now, but like bell-bottom jeans or flip phones, they’ll go out of style soon enough.
Instead of dealing with all the headache, make this a memorable occasion by having a virtual shower. Not only will you be able to expand your guest list, but you’ll still be able to connect and have fun with your guests. Your baby shower is a once-in-a-lifetime experience, and a virtual WebBabyShower can help keep it special.