When Should You Have a Baby Shower?

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Nothing says, “Welcome Baby!” quite like a baby shower. Family and friends come together in person, virtually, or a combination of both, to celebrate the arrival of a new little one. It is an excellent opportunity to shower the parents-to-be with support and love as they grow their family. But it can get confusing as to when it’s the ideal time to host a baby shower, and we’ve designed our online baby shower plans to solve this.

When to Have a Baby Shower?

That’s the question. Is there such a thing as having it too early? Too late? What about a virtual shower, andwho pays? Read on for some things to think about when scheduling your baby shower. You’ll be sending out those invitations in no time! We’ve also got you covered on a modern guide to baby shower etiquette.

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Setting a Date for When Should a Baby Shower be Held

Traditionally, baby showers are held in the third trimester of pregnancy. The beginning of the third trimester, from 28 to 32 weeks, is a great time for a baby shower! This is a solid start to planning a baby shower.

Mom-to-be is still comfortable and mobile enough to enjoy herself but far enough along to be getting excited about the very real and near prospect of holding her newborn. Sannice1979 shared some truth on thebump.com that:

“You want to be able to enjoy it as well as have the energy to deal with everything afterwards.”

Dads are often getting more enthusiastic at this point, as well. The physical reminder of a baby bump that squirms and kicks helps them connect with their unborn child in new ways.

This is also a great time for parents to receive and open their gifts. Little onesies will need to be washed and put away in time for the baby, who may choose to arrive earlier than the “due date.”

Larger items, such as cribs and car seats, can also be put together and installed without waiting until the last minute. Having a shower earlier on in the third trimester allows mom and dad to return duplicate items, as well as pick up things they still need, while they are still able to get around easily.

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When Should You Have an Online Baby Shower?

A virtual shower has the huge added benefit of flexibility; it can be held at roughly the same time in pregnancy as a traditional shower or earlier if you’d prefer. Rather than setting one specific date and hoping that guests are free, guests from all over the globe can participate over a few days or even weeks. This allows for maximum participation, and even more, love showered on the parents-to-be.

While almost 60% of our customers are expecting mothers, that means 40% are friends, grandmothers, or aunts. And guess what? They tend to start this baby shower planning process much earlier. (Something to do with free time!) That’s why our base plan is 6 months, and our premium plan is a whole 12 months!

Extra consideration for an online shower should be taken when planning any live events, such as 

video calls or chats. If guests are joining from vastly different time zones, try to choose a time that is within waking hours for everyone.

Guests will understand if they need to wake up a little early or stay up a little late, but they may not be so happy about a chat scheduled for 2 AM. The priority consideration should go to the parents-to-be, as they need all the rest they can get before the baby arrives. Mom’s energy may also be starting to wane, so allowing her much-needed rest is super important.

Special Circumstances to How Many Hours

There are always cases where traditional guidelines do not apply. If that applies to you, feel free to bend the guidelines to make the parents-to-be comfortable. Family and friends are there to support you, not judge. If they know your situation, they are probably even expecting some deviation from the norm likehow long the shower should last.

Twins or multiples Moms of multiples often delivery early, either because their medical professional recommends it or because the babies simply run out of womb room and are ready to see the world! Having an earlier baby shower, such as toward the end of the second trimester, for twins or multiples is entirely normal.

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Pregnancy complications– If mom has experienced some complications that necessitate bed rest or limited activity, this should impact the baby shower plans. It may mean an earlier shower to accommodate an earlier delivery or just simply limiting the number of guests or activities at the shower. Whatever the case, the most important thing is to keep mother and baby safe.

Family gatherings– If the timing of your shower falls close to a holiday or other family event, consider having the shower while guests from out-of-town are together. This can help create a hybrid virtual and in-person shower, where two groups get together in person and join virtually to create a mega shower. Guests will be glad to celebrate the new baby earlier or later than traditionally expected if it means that they can be together.

Religious or cultural practices– Some religions and cultures wait to celebrate a new baby until after he or she is born. This may also just be the preference of the parents-to-be. If this is the case for the expectant couple, guests should respect their traditions and beliefs. Instead, shower the parents and baby with love and gifts after the delivery. This has the added benefit of having the baby in attendance as the guest of honor.

To Have a Baby Shower Before or After?

According toWhat to Expect, there is no “right time” to hold your baby shower. The best date and time to plan this joyous event is ultimately a personal decision – when it feels like the right time to celebrate – to you! Keep reading for reasons parents-to-be may decide to hold a baby shower early in the pregnancy and why some wait until after delivery when baby can join the party too. 

Possible Reasons for an Early Baby Shower

Although many expectant parents opt to have their baby shower early on in the third trimester, there are several reasons why holding a shower even earlier than the “traditional” timeframe may be beneficial for you. For example, in the second trimester, you’re usually past the morning sickness stage and aren’t feeling overly tired. 

That means you feel up to socializing with your guests! An early baby shower also gives you plenty of time to buy the items you weren’t gifted at the shower. Plus, you’ll likely still have plenty of energy for shopping!

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For many moms, hosting a shower in the early- to mid-third trimester is simply a matter of personal preference. If that sounds like you, it gives you an opportunity to finish setting up your gift registry before baby’s arrival. And as What to Expect suggests, you can make sure the nursery is prepared in advance by checking these to-dos off your list: Unpack shower gifts, Set up the crib and nursery, and Wash baby’s new clothes. 

A third reason for an early baby shower is that, if you are experiencing a high-risk pregnancy, you can have your shower well before there may be bed rest restrictions. You’ll also likely avoid the risk of coinciding your shower with an early delivery.

After Baby Arrives – Reasons for a Sip & See Baby Shower

Thinking of holding your baby shower later in your pregnancy? There are definitely some pros that come along with waiting until baby arrives. Once you welcome a baby into the world, celebrating with your family and friends is one way to keep the excitement building all the way through your pregnancy and even after delivery. Plus, who doesn’t love a Sip & See shower where baby can be passed around? Just remember the hand sanitizer!

And since everyone wants to meet the baby, having your shower with the baby as the guest of honor enables you to make sure everybody has the opportunity to do so – all at once! That can help reduce surprise visits by guests who want to drop by later to see the baby when you just want some quiet time. 

An after-delivery shower also enables you to know more details about your new little one, such as his or her gender, weight, and length. For your shower guests, this totally takes the guesswork out of buying gifts! 

A General Timing Guide to Consider

The Spruceadvises not holding the baby shower too early, or too late. If you are more than 20 weeks into your pregnancy, congratulations! And if you’re ready to celebrate with family and friends, feel free to begin sending out invitations. After the 32-week mark, it’s perfectly acceptable to hold the shower if you are still feeling ready to party and haven’t yet made it to 38 weeks. 

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How to Know if You’re Baby Shower Ready

Thinking of holding your shower, but not sure if you’re baby shower ready? Here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • First, select a date and time for your baby shower. 
  • If planning an early shower, the new mom-to-be has plenty of time to organize the gifts and send out thank-you notes.
  • For a later shower, mom can still comfortably socialize with guests, without feeling overly tired or experiencing any pre-delivery complications.
  • You’ve checked with key family and friends, and their schedules are clear for baby shower day.
  • The venue you’ve selected is available. Or consider hosting an online baby shower – with us!

A baby shower is a joyous occasion filled with fun, laughter, and lots of love for a growing family. Having your baby shower at the right time can help you celebrate without worry or discomfort, yet with plenty of time to get those last-minute details ready for the new baby’s impending arrival. Virtual options offer even more flexibility. Whatever you decide, you’ll be sure to be welcoming a baby to a home filled with love, laughter, and gifts thanks to your generous family and friends. Now it’s time to get celebrating!