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9 Hidden Alternatives to Baby Showers

Amazing alternative baby shower ideas

Don’t get tripped up by the notion that baby showers at their worst are dated rituals or intense cringe fests. This is life, not an Amy Schumer rom-com, underneath the stereotype is an awesome moment to share and you can roll it your way.


Yes baby showers empower the soon-to-be mother by equipping her with the necessary support ( and way too much advice…) on best practices during and after her pregnancy. But at it’s core, it’s an awesome day when all family members and friends come together to celebrate the birth of a new baby! I mean, new baby’s rock.

But no one says you have to follow the rules of traditional baby showers, and here are nine alternatives you might want to consider. We’ve got everything from Navajo inspired rituals to modern baby shower website online options, but let’s start with the basics.

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1. Host a Girl’s Night Out Ok we’ll get back to this one post corona…

You’re never too old to get together with friends and have your very own girls’ night out. Besides, who doesn’t need a ladies night out? It’s a great way to catch up with friends and celebrate the impending arrival of a new baby.
Friends can bring home some light beverages and their favorite food to share. You can hang out and chat about motherhood. Everyone gets to benefit.

2. Online Baby Shower with WebBabyShower

It’s not easy being inclusive with your baby shower if your friends and family are spread over 2000 miles apart. This is where an online baby shower comes into play. With WebBabyShower, you can share your most treasured moments with guests who can’t join you for any reason.
With WebBabyShower, you can now send tracked emails and reminders to your guests to make sure they attend the event on time without disrupting their schedule.

But just because it’s a ‘virtual’ baby shower doesn’t mean it won’t include all the highlights of the day. WebBabyShower provides a comprehensive baby shower experience, complete with guest books, games with live scoreboards, videos and photo albums, a gift registry, and built-in email invitations. The best part is the co-hosted system that lets you and your friends put together videos and photos.

Web Baby Shower lets you include any registry you want to choose, including Babylist, Amazon, and BuyBabyBuy.

3. Throw a Sprinkle Instead

Think of a ‘sprinkles’ as a lite version of the traditional baby shower. This is preferred by women who already have at least one older child, allowing them to celebrate their new child in a laid-back and low-key approach. Sprinkles are also preferred by moms who don’t want to create a big fuss about their pregnancy and just want something more light-headed. To this end, a sprinkle is a perfect fit.

4. Host an Open House

You may have to schedule your baby shower on the weekend to ensure everyone can celebrate motherhood without leaving their job. Open houses place less of an emphasis on gifts and focus more on bringing together those who simply wish to be a part of your celebration.
For obvious reasons, the guestlist for the one house is going to be more inclusive, and by nature, much larger than traditional baby showers. This event is geared for both men and women, hence the term ‘co-ed’ baby showers.
Since gifts and registries are not essential, they are completely optional. However, it is a good idea to prepare a few snacks and dessert for your guests. Open Houses are typically more flexible when it comes to time commitment, allowing guests to drop by within a time frame to make an appearance and wish the mom-to-be well.

Godh Bharai shower
Ok, maybe your not doing this. But it does look awesome right?

5. Godh Bharai

Godh Bharai is the Indian equivalent to baby showers and cranks up the celebration of pregnancy and motherhood. Indians mostly perform Godh Bharai to pray for the good health of both baby and mother, and its safe delivery. It is exclusive to women, but some exceptions can be made for men. You will need lots of traditional Indian finery, including pieces of jewelry (artificial will do just fine), a special sari, and lots of flowers. Prepare for lots of gifts bestowed by family members and friends!
Godh Bharai is celebrated with tremendous fervor such as singing, dancing, and exciting games like guessing the baby’s gender and suggesting names.

Blessingway alternative baby shower
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6. Go for a Blessingway

Blessingways are beautiful pre-birth traditions inspired by old Navajo ceremonies which celebrate a woman’s rite of passage into motherhood. This gather includes the mom-to-be’s most trusted friends and family who come together for prayer and share gifts among one another. Traditionally blessingways are women-only and include the mom-to-be’s mother, aunts, sisters, friends, mentors, or anyone she may invite.
Women share their own birth stories around their circle, these are both exciting and heartwarming to hear. Blessingways can be performed regardless of one’s religion since it is compatible with all belief systems. Want to host your blessingway the perfect way? Let the experts at Web Baby Showers to it for you!

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7. Get More Practical with a Group Gift

Here’s a bright idea. Gather up with friends and family to find a practical baby gift that won’t be on the registry. Surprise ideas for her could include: gift cards for takeout at her favorite eateries, a deep house clean when she isn’t around, or even a gift card to help her purchase essential Baby items. You will have to get a little creative with the purchase to find an item that your friend will appreciate the most.

8. Being Charitable Towards Other Mothers

It’s not easy being a mom with limited means of income and hard times can fall on anyone. This is why it is a nice idea to donate your gifts to a local women’s shelter, foster family resource room, or pregnancy center. Alternatively, you could ask your friends and family to donate directly instead of giving the gift to you (provided they’re comfortable with the idea!).
Another bright idea is to fund projects that provide clean birth kits to women in underdeveloped areas of the world. That will make a lasting impact.

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9. Sip and See (After the Baby Is Born)

Sip & See is a celebration that is hosted by the new parents. It is more about the baby and less about the mom. Guests typically shop around for gifts that will help the baby adjust to its new life.


There are many ways to go, and the most important is you can mix them together! Want to know a secret? Our happy customers have done one kind of event for a group of in-town friends and then thrown an online shower with us to include everyone who couldn’t make it. This is the new trend, making it work for you. Try us out today, no risk.

Baby Shower Idea: Mother Blessings

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As a leading provider of online baby shower planning information, Web Baby Shower is often asked whether it is appropriate to have a shower for a second or subsequent pregnancy, if it is ok to invite men, or just for fresh, new ideas for baby showers. If you are looking for an alternative to the to the traditional American “baby shower,” Web Baby Shower suggests a Mother Blessing (blessingway).

What Is A Mother Blessing?

Popularly known as a “Blessingway,” a Mother Blessing is based on the Blessingway tradition from the Dine (Navajo). A true Blessingway is used not only for pregnant women about to give birth, but also for men going off to war or anyone who needs good tidings when facing a new stage in life. In addition, an in-culture Blessingway involves singing the Blessingway song by a trained Navajo medicine man. The Blessingway song is considered very spiritual and is very detailed about the Dine origin myth with emphasis on the importance of the home (hogan) and the sacred mountains.

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Beautiful brown-haired pregnant girl in a white dress with flowers lilies and orchids

Because most of us are not trained to sing such a song, there is movement, out of respect for Dine sacred ritual, to use the name “Mother Blessing” instead of “Blessingway” for the pre-birth ritual practiced by the general population. As a bonus, “Mother Blessing” is much more descriptive of the ceremony being described in this editorial and needs far less explanation for people not familiar with the celebration.

Unlike the traditional American baby shower which is usually focused on the baby, the Mother Blessing’s focus is positive energy to prepare the mother and her birth partner for the birth. There are many ways to celebrate a Mother Blessing including the creation of a birthing necklace, foot bath and hair grooming for the expecting mother, as well as sharing thoughts, poetry, songs, personal stories, prayers, best wishes and gifts with the expecting parents.

Because they are more spiritual in nature, Mother Blessings can be a nice way to include men, especially the father-to-be, or to do something different than the same old “wrap TP around the belly” baby shower games.

I hope the information in this guide is helpful in choosing to have a Mother Blessing (Blessingway) or just for alternative baby shower ideas.

Music for your Mother Blessing

Music can be used at a Mother Blessing in a variety of ways. Guests can play music as an accompaniment to the convocation, presentation of gifts or closing. Everyone can sing together for an opening or closing. Those who don’t know to play instruments can play hand drums, rattles, and other percussive instruments. If you do not have any percussive instruments, Melissa and Doug make a cute “Band In A Box” pack that will work just fine for your blessingway and will make a nice gift to give the expecting mother when you are done with the Mother Blessing.

You can also add pre-recorded music to your Mother Blessing. The following artists have been recommended for motherhood blessingways. You can choose to play songs as a background or as part of your convocation or conclusion.

Lisa Thiel, Libana, Sacred Earth Drums, Native American Flute Music: Canyon Trilogy, Alicia Bonnet, Songs of the Earth by Anna Kealoha

Songs To Sing At Your Mother Blessing

If your guests are unfamilar with these songs, you may wish to sing them once and then invite them to join in or print them onto cards. If you do not know the melody and cannot make one up, you and your guests can chant the songs.

Baby in mother belly listening to music

Birthing Song
We are opening
We are opening
We are opening
We are opening up to the sweet surrender of the luminous love light of the world
(repeat as desired!)

Labour Song
Sing, Mama, sing, please sing that song again
And I will sing along with you
Teach me how to let it flow
Teach me how to make things grow
And then Mama, teach me how to let them go

Dear ones, Dear ones,
Can I tell you how I feel
You have given me such treasures
I love you so.

sung to “Soul Cakes” folk song, or whatever melody strikes you.

Note: I do not have author or copyright information for these song lyrics and am making the risky assumption that they are in the public domain.

Birth & Baby Shower Books

The Natural Pregnancy Book, Third Edition: Your Complete Guide to a Safe, Organic Pregnancy and Childbirth with Herbs, Nutrition, and Other Holistic Choices by Aviva Jill Romm, Forward by Ina May Gaskin

A revised and updated edition of the classic handbook for women seeking a safe, organic, eco-friendly, and natural pregnancy, featuring an integrative-based approach with new medical, herbal, and nutritional information.

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Further Reading – Books on Mother Blessing Planning

Mother Rising: The Blessingway Journey Into Motherhood” is described as “..a complete resource for anyone interested in creating sacred rituals to honor our important life passages.” It includes straightforward information, detailed checklists, helpful tips, and practical advice of empowering more women to plan, organize, and lead blessingway rituals.

I love Mother Rising! […] Mother Rising is a treasure chest, a cyclopedic cookbook for Blessingways, full of great ideas and inspiration.
~Pam England, midwife and author of “Birthing from Within” [Get on Amazon]

Blessingways: A Guide to Mother-Centered Baby Showers, by Shari Maser, CCE

From the website:


“The Blessingway book that every pregnant woman and her friends should read”

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Blessingways are celebrations of pregnant and adoptive women and their transition into motherhood. These special mother-centered gatherings offer friends and family a fresh approach to honoring, supporting, nurturing,and encouraging mothers-to-be.

Blessingways: A Guide to Mother-Centered Baby Showers features:

  • Step-by-step guide to planning a personalized “mother shower”
  • Imaginative invitation ideas
  • Unique Blessingway celebrations
  • Inspiring stories and comments from women who have participated in Blessingways
  • Creative suggestions for including men and children

This book is a bounty of inspiration!
~Pam England, CNM, MA, midwife and author of “Birthing from Within” Get on Amazon

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Suggested Poetry and Prose for Mother Blessings and Baby Showers

  • “Children of Happiness” from Daughters of the Copper Woman by Anne Cameron
  • “On Children” from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran

Where to Host a Mother Blessing

It is traditional to have a Mother Blessing at the mother’s home. If you don’t want the expecting mother to have to worry about cleaning before or after a blessingway, you can also host it at the nearby home of a close relative or friend. It is important that you choose an intimate location where the expecting mother and all the guests will feel comfortable and able to let their guard down.

Outdoor locations would also be appropriate as long as you can keep outsiders from interrupting and as long as the location promotes a feeling of closeness between the expecting mother, guests and nature. A private garden would be an ideal outdoor Mother Blessing location.

While it may be trendy to host a baby shower at a hip restaurant or hotel reception room, this is not recommended for a Mother Blessing. The bustle of locations such as these just would not be conducive to the positive energy you want to imbue on the expecting mother. Plus, she’s not going to give birth at a restaurant (we hope!). Bless her in a location that is similar to the surroundings where she will begin labor and give birth.

When to Hold a Mother Blessing

In order to help the expecting mother prepare for birth, a Mother Blessing should be held about one month before her due date. Keep in mind that due dates are just estimates and the baby can come any time in the two weeks before the due date, up to two weeks after the due date. Holding a Mother Blessing about a month before the due date will help ensure that the baby doesn’t make an unexpected appearance. It will also give the momma-to-be time to focus on all the positive wishes everyone has made for her and to incorporate her birthing necklace and other ritual items into her birthing preparation.

Best Friends on baby shower party celebrating giving kid stuff as present

Who Should Host a Mother Blessing

Because the focus of a Mother Blessing is positive preparation for childbirth and not gifts, it would be appropriate for almost any relative or friend to give a Mother Blessing for an expecting family. In fact, if expecting parents want to have an intimate Mother Blessing just for the themselves and their children, that’s fine too!

If family members would like to host, but a friend has more Mother Blessing experience, it is fine to have more than one host. Or have one person host the Mother Blessing at her house and the other one conduct the actual ceremony. In the case of multiple hosts, I find things usually go smoothest if one person is the “lead” host and delegates to the others, but you should use whatever arrangement works best for your group of hosts.

“Host” tends to have a double meaning when it comes to Mother Blessings, because there is the person whose home the Mother Blessing happens in and the person who conducts the Mother Blessing ritual — it can be the same person or more than one.

Some midwives offer services of conducting a Mother Blessing for you. If no one in your family or circle of friends feels comfortable conducting a “first” blessingway, this may be a viable option, especially if you have developed a close bond with your midwife. If not, I encourage you to try it yourselves as the bonds created will be much more meaningful when the Mother Blessing is conducted by the people closest to the expecting mother. You really cannot do it wrong and each Mother Blessing you hold will be a valuable experience which you can build upon.

Creating a Guest List for your Mother Blessing

A Mother Blessing should be attended by anyone who seriously wishes to help the expecting mother prepare for childbirth.  Traditionally, Mother Blessings were women-only, but we’ve recently learned that men have a lot of spirituality and positive energy to contribute to a Mother Blessing!

If the expecting father plans to be present with the expecting mother throughout her labor and delivery, he certainly should be a part of a Mother Blessing as he needs to prepare just as much as she does. The positive energy generated at a Mother Blessing will also be a source of strength for the expecting dad as he comforts his partner through labor and birth.

In addition, many men will feel more comfortable to not be at a baby shower and if a Mother Blessing is new to your family friends, the women will be just as out of place (but don’t worry, everyone will get the hang of it in no time!)

Because this is an intimate celebration, guests should be mature enough to positively participate in the rituals but it is possible to include the children of the expecting parents. They certainly will enjoy activities like decorating meditation stones and belly painting, but there should be someone there who is not part of the Mother Blessing to chaperone them when they get bored. Other children, including children of the host(s), should really be left at home or kept separate from the Mother Blessing.

You can make a Mother Blessing as intimate or as large as you like. Some women prefer the attention of just their partner or of two or three close friends. Other women gain more strength from a mass of supportive friends and relatives. That said, I would say the upper limit on guests should be about 10-15 people. With more than that it becomes cumbersome (not to mention time consuming) to allow each person to participate and some people will shy away or break off instead of keeping the energy moving.

If you have more than 15 people who “have” to be included, I would suggest still keeping the Mother Blessing ritual intimate and either having a big “reception” afterwards or saving the big crowds for a welcoming party after the baby is born.

Invitations for a Mother Blessing

Because Mother Blessings are fairly unique, I would recommend an invitation that is descriptive of the event. In addition, guests at a Mother Blessing are expected to become intimately involved in the ceremony so the invitation should also prepare them for their role. You are welcome to use “snippets” of my descriptions in this Mother Blessing website on your invitation, but please, do not reprint the entire article without permission!

Mother Blessing invitations do not have to be formal or elaborate. You can hand write them or create them on a computer. They should be reflective of nature and the mother-centered focus of the celebration. Therefore, appropriate clip-art or flourishes would be flowers, animals or symbols from the mother’s spiritual beliefs, but not baby carriages and diaper pins.

A Mother Blessing Invitation Checklist

  • Who For
  • Date
  • Time
  • Host Name
  • Location
  • RSVP: phone/email
  • Directions

What is a Mother Blessing?

The practice of celebrating pregnancy and the birth of a new mother transcends almost all human cultures. Unlike the traditional American baby shower which is usually focused on the baby, the Mother Blessing’s focus is positive energy to prepare the mother [and her birth partner] for labor and childbirth.

Happy and young pregnant couple hugging in nature

There are many ways to celebrate a Mother Blessing and we will include the following “rituals” in our Mother Blessing: the creation of a birthing necklace (to be worn during labor), the creation of a set of meditation stones for use during labor as well as sharing thoughts, poetry, songs, personal stories, prayers, best wishes and gifts with the expecting parents. [please include or replace with descriptions of the rituals you plan to use.

What do I bring to a Mother Blessing?

  • Yourself – most importantly!
  • A bead, trinket or charm to include on the birthing necklace. Your bead should symbolize your wish for the mother and baby in labor and birth as it will be worn by [Mother’s name] while she is in labor.
  • A gift. It is traditional to give handmade gifts at a Mother Blessing. However, if you are not crafty, a “handmade” gift can come in many forms including:
    • A poem to read or song to sing at the Mother Blessing
    • A dish to be frozen and eaten after the baby arrives but before anyone feels like cooking
    • “Coupons” for babysitting, house cleaning or dog walking to be “redeemed” after the baby is born

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Gifts for a Mother Blessing

It is traditional to give only natural, handmade gifts at a Mother Blessing. Handmade gifts do not have to be elaborate — feel free to use a quick or easy pattern for a blanket, hooded towel or other baby item. On the other hand, if intricately crocheted gowns and booties are your specialty, then go for it!

If your crowd isn’t too crafty, you can offer other non-commercial gift ideas such as:

  • sharing a story or poem
  • singing a song
  • playing an instrument
  • bringing candles, flowers or pillows for the ceremony or a family altar
  • preparing a dish to be frozen and used once the baby is born
  • “coupons” for babysitting and housekeeping

These “in lieu of gifts” gifts, make an ideal choice for anyone who doesn’t feel comfortable having a second baby shower — or who just doesn’t need any more baby stuff for baby number four!

Of course, if the expecting parents need baby gear, by all means, mention any baby registries or specific requests to your guests.

Favors for a Mother Blessing

Favors are not a traditional part of the Mother Blessing or blessingways and are therefore not necessary. However, if you wish to give your guests a thank you for coming, a fragrantly scented bar of handmade soap or a candle to light can make a nice reminder of the wishes we’re supposed to keep making for the birth after the Mother Blessing is over. There are several websites that specialize in favors for baby showers and other occasions listed on the Web Baby Shower Guide To Planning A Baby Shower: Baby Shower Favors page.

Food and Refreshments for a Mother Blessing

Food is not part of the traditional blessingway ceremony, so serving food is completely optional at your Mother Blessing celebration. Even if you don’t serve food, it is a nice courtesy to have water or herbal tea on hand for your guests.

If you choose to serve food at your Mother Blessing, it should be simple and nourishing to reflect the soulful tone of a Mother Blessing. There is no need to carve watermelons into baby carriages for a Mother Blessing! However, if you would like to eat a watermelon or include it in a nice fruit salad at your Mother Blessing, go right on ahead.

Depending on the time of day you hold the Mother Blessing, food should be served either before or after the Mother Blessing rituals. Food should not be eaten during any part of the ceremony as it will detract from the energy being built by the celebration. As such, I would almost suggest saving food for after the Mother Blessing rituals so that guests aren’t tempted to nibble when they should be chanting!

Food Suggestions:
Remember that your guest of honor is pregnant and is probably battling acid reflux and hemorrhoids, even if she doesn’t want to admit it. My first suggestion is to check with her and see what foods she is currently enjoying and what she would like to have at her Mother Blessing. Other than that, I’d suggest keeping it simple with a spread of finger foods like hummus with pita and freshly cut vegetables, hard cheeses, crackers, natural corn tortilla chips and salsa, fruit salad and so forth. I would encourage you to use fresh made food and not any prepared trays as pregnant women are supposed to avoid salad bars, cold cuts and soft cheeses in order to reduce the risk of bacteria harming the fetus. You can also include dessert pieces, especially if momma’s sweet tooth is aching! If you want to get more elaborate, it’s up to you, but I really encourage you to keep the food simple and focus your time and energy on the rituals which will help prepare the expecting mom for giving birth.

Drink Suggestions:
If the weather is hot, have enough water available for everyone. A nice iced batch of Organic Pregnancy Tea would go well with the Mother Blessing tradition. If you’re hosting during colder weather, you can keep a pot of pregnancy tea brewing for everyone to drink warm (don’t worry, pregnancy tea can be drunk by anyone — it won’t make you pregnant and it will be nice to share it with the expecting mom). Other herbal teas, juices and mineral waters would also make healthful refreshments for a Mother Blessing.

Decorations for a Mother Blessing

Because the focus of a Mother Blessing is positive preparation for childbirth, you should really focus on “the atmosphere” or “mood” rather than “decorations.”  Natural light or semi-darkness will set the right tone for your Mother Blessing. Emphasis should be on the rituals and therefore decorations should be kept simple and reflective of nature. Fresh cut flowers, evergreen garlands, candlelight, burning incense, aromatherapy misters, or a glowing fire (if seasonal) would help set the appropriate mood.

You can usually find these items at your local health/natural living stores or online at Amazon, or by searching for products using your favorite search engine. You can create an altar for the Mother Blessing using candles, incense, ceramic bowls, scarved, stones, quartz, photos and other items that have symbolic, spiritual or nostalgic meaning for your family or the expecting mother. If you have a private yard where you will not be interrupted by outsiders and where everyone will feel comfortable letting their guard down, outdoors close to nature is also an option.

Wooden tabletop with stationery, paper, camera and baloons on

Furniture should be arranged in a circle or semi-circle to represent unity and strength and so that everyone can participate. If you do not have enough chairs, you can simply use pillows or cushions on the floor. It should be easy to move around the circle so that guests can present their beads and gifts to the expecting mother. All supplies for the rituals you will be performing should be easy to reach.

That’s all. How simple is that?

A Mother Blessing For Yourself

So, you’ve heard all about Mother Blessings and you’re sure you just have to have one but are also sure your friends and family have their hearts set on a baby shower? Well, the good news is, I have a couple suggestions!

First, I would recommend talking with the “party planner” of your family or group of friends and share this guide with her. Let that person know how important and meaningful the ceremony would be to you and that you will help them “adjust” from baby showers to Mother Blessings. Usually, when your family and friends realize how important this is to you, they will make the transition. Hopefully, all of the easy to understand, practical advice here at Snowboard Mommy Productions will make it easy for them to say “Yes”!

However, if you have a stubborn group that is dead-set on a baby shower, my suggestion is to remember that it is perfectly acceptable for you and your partner to have a private, intimate Mother Blessing for yourselves! Baby showers and Mother Blessings are not mutually exclusive — you can do both. And I believe that they would complement each other; with the baby shower focused on gifts and silly games and the Mother Blessing focused on preparing you for birth. Even if you have to endure a baby shower for the sake of others, there must be someone you can talk into doing a Mother Blessing with you. You only need one other person to indulge you, although two might provide a better “critical mass.” Whether it’s your partner, child, friend, close relative, midwife or doula, I just can’t imagine that there isn’t at least one person who, when you let them know how much a Mother Blessing would mean to you, that they wouldn’t do it for you. My guess is that when others close to you hear about your plans to have a “do-it-yourself” Mother Blessing, you will probably end up having to decide whether to keep it small, private and intimate, or make it into a larger celebration — and the choice will be yours! Good luck!

Mother Blessing Checklist

You can use this checklist to help organize your Mother Blessing. There is also a printer-friendly PDF checklist that you can print out and check things off as you move along. Good luck and have fun with your Mother Blessing plans!

Initial Planning

Ideally, these should be taken care of at least one – two months in advance of your Mother Blessing. However, if you plan to have a a small Mother Blessing, some of these may be completely unnecessary, especially if it is just for yourself and your partner.

Photo of pretty pregnant woman sitting in pose of lotus and making notes
  • Hosts and co-hosts selected
  • Date and time selected and verified with host(s) and guest(s) of honor
  • Location selected and confirmed
  • Guest list confirmed with host(s) and guests of honor
  • Guest’s addresses collected and verified (if mailing invitations)
  • Rituals selected with input from expecting parents*

*Note: you need to do this before making up the invitations so that you can advise your guests on what to bring with them and set their expectations for the Mother Blessing

One Month Mark

You should send invitations out about a month ahead of time to give everyone enough time to plan for it, but not so far in advance that they forget about it. Also, since Mother Blessing gifts are supposed to be handmade, one month will give people enough time to make something.

  • Invitations printed
  • Invitations mailed
  • Ceremony opening and closing written
  • Accompanying or background music selected
  • Songs, prayers or chants for ceremony selected
  • Lyric cards printed for guests, if applicable
  • Menu (if any) selected with input from expecting parents
  • Customized soap or candle favors ordered
    • This is, of course, optional and only needs to be done in advance if you plan to have favors customized
  • Online supplies ordered
    • If you plan to order any of your Mother Blessing supplies online, you should make sure there is ample time for items to arrive at your door.

2 Week Mark

Time to start collecting everything together! Delegate as much as possible!

  • Candles, incense, smudge sticks to set atmosphere gathered and set aside
  • Supplies for each ritual to be performed gathered
    • (not including what guests will bring the day of the Mother Blessing)
  • Make sure you have selected your own bead for the birthing necklace and a gift for the mom!
  • Adequate chairs/floor pillows for expected number of guests
  • As guests RSVP, sign them up for bringing items from your menu or ingredients
  • If you plan to give favors such as a candle or soap, pick some up now
    • Or delegate to a co-host or guest

Day of your Mother Blessing

As you scurry around to get everything ready, remember that the mood is supposed to be tranquil and peaceful, so stop and take a few deep breaths every now and then!

  • Get any food ready to be served; prepare any tea or beverages
  • If you will be eating before the ceremony, set out food ahead of time
  • Otherwise, keep food set away in refrigerator or counter
  • Get the room or area where the main part of ceremony will be conducted ready
    • Arrange chairs and/or floor pillows in a circle
    • Have all music, note cards, ritual supplies in a handy place
    • Arrange any fresh flowers or other natural bouquets
  • Just before guests begin to arrive, set the mood by lowering lights, light candles, fire, incense.
  • Relax as you greet your guests and enjoy the day!

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Mother Blessing Personal Testimonials

Don’t just take my word for it! People everywhere are choosing Mother Blessings over baby showers for a variety of reasons.

Vanessa, mother of 3
I chose to have a blessingway because I wanted something more significant and meaningful than a regular baby shower. I had always despised the normal games played at showers of any kind and after having a baby shower during my first pregnancy, I wanted to try something a little different the second time around. When I read about blessingways, I knew that was what I wanted.

The most significant part of my blessingway, was making the birthing necklace. Each guest brought a bead, stone, or small item that could be used as part of the necklace. As each person presented their contribution, they told me why they had chosen their particular bead and concluded with a personal wish for a good birthing experience. The necklace held a tremendous amount of “power”, having been infused with all those good birthing vibes. When I went into labor, the first thing I did was to put on my necklace. I concentrated on all the good wishes and thoughts from my friends and family and felt that it did, indeed, impart an overwhelming sense of calm, confidence and positive influence on me. It culminated in a very lovely birth experience.

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The birthingway ceremony felt much more special and real to me than a baby shower. The shower felt a little contrived and I felt very out of place trying to have fun playing silly little games like I would expect to see being played at a children’s party. The blessingway was much more like a real “ceremony” that had lasting importance and value in my life. It was tailored to me and my likes and dislikes by the people who know me best and I think it touched everyone there as much as it touched me. And everyone had a lot of fun, even without the games!

Poetry, Quotes, Books and Prayers

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Poetry, Quotes, Books and Prayers for your Mother Blessing, Pregnancy, Labor, Birth or Baby Shower

You can use these works as they are or adapt them to suit your needs and taste for your Mother Blessing convocation or closing. They can also be used for a baby shower, for meditations when preparing for labor, or things to focus on during labor. If you wish to have your guests recite a verse together, you may want to print a couple of copies of the verse for them to refer to. Please do not feel limited to the passages here; you can also draw prayers and poetry from your own religion or create one centered on nature.

Visualizations for your Mother Blessing, Pregnancy, Labor, Birth or Baby Shower

These were provided to me by my midwives, Marilyn Milestone and Rhonda Ray of “Helping Hands Midwifery” in Portland, OR. You can use all or some of these phrases to create your own prayer or meditation.

Visualizations For The Mother

  • I am a strong and capable woman
  • My changing body is radiantly beautiful
  • I am calm and relaxed
  • The foods I am eating are nourishing for my baby
  • I like this baby
  • My baby is growing and developing in a healthy and good way
  • My body is supporting this baby
  • My mind is in tune with this baby
  • My heart brings the spirit of love and hope to my baby
  • I am relaxed and centered
  • I have plenty of time for everything
  • I will be ready when the time comes to give birth
  • My baby feels my calmness and shares it
  • As I think, so shall I become
  • I trust my body to labor smoothly and efficiently
  • Childbirth is a normal, healthy event
  • My baby and I are working harmoniously together; we are grateful for this powerful experience
  • The strength of my contractions is an expression of my feminine power
  • I allow myself to celebrate the birth of my child with every sensation I feel
  • My pelvis will release and open as have those of countless women before me
  • I feel the love that others have for me during birth
  • I treat my mate lovingly during the birthing
  • I have a beautiful body. It is my friend
  • Contractions are an effortless way to assist my baby into the world
  • I embrace the concept of healthy pain
  • I can see my last birth as a learning experience, from which I am growing and changing

Visualizations For Her Partner

  • I see my partner as a strong and capable woman and this does not threaten me
  • I express my love to my partner easily and frequently
  • I am sensitive, tender, open and trusting with my partner
  • I am able to make the best possible choices for a healthy, joyful birth
  • I am able to support my partner during pregnancy and birth
  • We are working harmoniously together; we are grateful for this powerful experience
  • The power of birth strengthens me, my child and my partner
  • Our baby is growing and developing in a healthy and good way
  • My heart brings the spirit of love and hope to our baby

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Poetry for your Mother Blessing,
Pregnancy, Labor, Birth or Baby Shower

“Before I was a Mom”
Author Unknown

Before I was a Mom
I slept as late as I wanted and never worried about how late I got into bed
I brushed my hair and my teeth everyday
I ate meals while they were still hot
I wore clothes that had no stains

Before I was a Mom
I never looked into teary eyes and cried
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin
I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn’t want to put it down

Before I was a Mom
I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much
I never knew that I could love someone so much
I never knew I would love being a Mom
I didn’t know the feeling of having my heart outside my body

Before I was a Mom
I didn’t know how special it could feel to nurse a hungry baby
I didn’t know that something so small could make me feel so important and happy
I had never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache, the wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
I didn’t know I was capable of feeling so much before I was a Mom.

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Willow Tree

I am a willow tree,
Strong, yet fluid


I can bend with the wind,
but my roots are tough,


Opening to birth my child
is flowing with the wind:

from a soft and gentle breeze
to a stormy gale
back to a soft and gentle breeze.

My body is strong, but flexible.
It is my friend, it knows how to open.
I am a friend to my body

eating well, walking, and loving myself.

I shall birth safely, freely, openly . . .

among my loved and trusted ones.

I am the willow, flexible

beautiful resilient
endowed with the power of surrender

to the wind rustling through my leaves,

my branches.

My roots reach deep into Mother Earth
Anchored in Her strength
I bring forth life
In joy!

Quotes for a Baby Shower or Mother Blessing

Before you were conceived I wanted you
Before you were born I loved you
Before you were here an hour I would die for you
This is the miracle of life.
~Maureen Hawkins

“The decision to become a mother is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”

“If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands?”

“For the mother is and must be, whether she knows it or not, the greatest, strongest, and most lasting teacher her children have.”

“God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers.”

“Becoming a mother makes you the mother of all children. From now on, each wounded, abandoned, frightened child is yours. You live in the suffering mothers of every race and creed and weep with them. You long to comfort all who are desolate.”

“Birth Factoid Focus”
The day I give birth 300,000 other women around the world will be giving birth as well. We will all become mothers together

“As you do unto your unborn children, so they will do unto the world”
Thomas Verny, MD
on prenatal psychology

The path of the mother
should be given its deserved
value as a sacred and powerful spiritual path

-Tsultrim Allione

For each of us as women there is a deep place within, where hidden and growing our true spirit rises …
Within these deep places, each one holds an incredible reserve of creativity and power, of unexamined and unrecorded emotion and feeling

-Audre Lorde

The powerful world of pregnancy holds the joys and the awe of creating a whole new person who will be part of your life indefinitely.

-Joy Gardner

A woman is the full circle, within her is the power — to create, nurture, and transform

-Diane Mariechild

I have a vision of the Earth made green again through the efforts of children. I can see children of all nations planting trees and hold hands around the globe in celebration of the Earth as their home and all children, all people as their family.

-R. St. Barbe Baker

The wise woman within us remembers our goodness. She speaks to us in our dreams, through the rustling of leaves, the singing of a stream, the aroma of herbs and the call of the whippoorwill. She encourages use to heal our wounds. She asks us to remember our connection to all that is beautiful and sacred. She asks us to remember that we are part of all beauty.

-Deb Soule of Avena Botanicals

Nothing is so beautiful as a ship at full sail, or a woman great with child.


waters rising
moon filling me
this vessels holds firm
but is ready to
overflow at any time.
so ready for my baby
to be born

Aviva Jill Romm, Natural Pregnancy Book

Mother Blessing Rituals: Beyond Baby Shower Games

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Whether you decide to host an actual Mother Blessing (Blessingway), or just use these ideas for your baby shower, here are some activity suggestions. The host and the expecting mother should pick the ones that appeal the most and that will fit into the allotted time for the celebration. This is only a partial list and you certainly are welcome to adapt these suggestions and make up your own rituals!

Ideas For Mother Blessing Rituals

Mother Blessing Ritual: Birthing Necklace

The birthing necklace is the cornerstone of the Mother Blessing. It is intended for the mother to wear during labor to bring strength and all of the positive energy the trinkets in the necklace symbolize. If the mom-to-be does not think she will actually use or wear a birthing necklace, you can alternately create a birthing wreath or basket to have near her while she is in labor.

You will need:

  • Guests who have brought beads or trinkets
  • Leather, hemp, or cotton cord, from craft or bead supply store, at least 2 feet long (you can cut it to fit after all trinkets have been strung)
  • Jewelry needle to thread beads onto necklace
  • Small rings, craft wire, embroidery floss or ribbons to attach odd-sized beads or trinkets to necklace, from craft or beading supply store

How To Make A Birthing Necklace

On the invitation, ask each guest to bring a small trinket or bead that symbolizes their wish for the mother and baby in labor and birth. Emphasize that it will be used to make a necklace for the mother to wear during labor.

Before the Mother Blessing begins, cut a length of coated beading wire to make a full-length necklace and either tie a knot in one end, or

add a crimping bead or necklace clasp to the end. Thread the other end through a beading needle to make it easy to place the beads on it. Place the prepared necklace into a small bowl or basket so it can be passed easily around the room.

At the Mother Blessing, going clockwise around the circle, have each guest explain the significance of their bead as they place their bead on the necklace. Alternately, you can have everyone present their beads to the mother and place them in a bowl for someone string them on the necklace after the presentations. The result is a necklace full of good wishes for the mother to wear and focus on while she is in labor.

Make sure you finish the necklace with a knot or clasp before you place around the expecting mother’s neck.


  • Be prepared for people to bring very small, very large and odd-shaped trinkets that may or may not have a hole that you can attach to the necklace with. For this purpose, have some small, keyring style rings to place any small beads or odd-sized trinkets on the necklace. You may also have to get creative with some beading thread, ribbons or craft wire to attach certain beads or trinkets. Just keep in mind that it is supposed to be worn, so make sure that there are no sharp wires sticking out anywhere. Mom will be in enough pain from the labor contractions!

  • Emphasize on the invitation that the Birthing Necklace is meant to be worn during labor. I thought I had made that clear on my invitation, but our guests were surprised to learn that, yes, indeed, we were making an actual necklace to wear during labor. Some of them had brought some very well-intentioned pieces that just didn’t work on a necklace — especially one to be worn during the thrashing about of child labor! Emphasis on the “necklace to be worn during labor” may help reduce the number of odd-shaped and cumbersome-sized pieces. If you do receive some odd trinkets, put them on the necklace anyway. You do not want to break the chain of positive energy!

Mother Blessing Ritual: Birthing Wreath or Basket

The creation of a birthing wreath or basket can be done in place of the Birthing Necklace or in addition to it. You can either make your own wreath or buy one from a craft store. If you choose to do a basket, you most likely will want to buy one. Whether it is a basket or wreath, it should be made from natural materials, ideally.

You will need:

  • Guests who have brought beads or trinkets OR
  • Small slips of paper nice paper (such as scrapbook paper) and pens
  • A natural fiber wreath or basket, from a craft supply store
  • Craft wire, beading thread or ribbons to attach trinkets or wishes to wreath or basket

How To Make A Birthing Wreath or Basket

If you wish to decorate the wreath with trinkets, on the invitation, ask each guest to bring a small trinket or bead that symbolizes their

wish for the mother and baby in labor and birth. If you are already doing a birthing necklace and do not want guests to have to bring two trinkets, you can simply have guests write their wishes on a slip of paper and attach that to the wreath. You can always have some paper and ribbons on hand so that if any guests forget to bring a trinket they can still participate in this activity.

At the Mother Blessing, going clockwise around the circle, have each guest explain the significance of their bead or share their wish they have written on paper and then attach the trinket or paper to the wreath. The result is a wreath or basket full of good wishes for the mother to focus on while she is in labor. A wreath should be hung in the room where the mother plans to do most of her laboring, in a spot where she will easily be able to view it.


  • If the expecting mother is planning to give birth at a hospital or birthing center, a basket may be more practical as it can be carried more easily and be set down on a table or chair (the hospital probably isn’t going to let you hang a wreath in the labor room!). A basket can also be packed with other labor easing items such as aromatherapy misters and labor-friendly aromatherapy essential oils to bring to the hospital.
  • You can decorate the wreath or basket with beads and trinkets that your guests have brought OR you can have them write a wish for the mother’s labor on a small slip of paper (with a hole punched in it) and tie those to the basket or wreath with a ribbon.
  • If you are using paper wishes, as you have your guests write their wishes on paper, make sure you point out that they will be expected to read their wish aloud to the group.

Mother Blessing Grooming Ritual: Foot Bath

Help mom relax with a foot bath from you and anyone who wants to help out. This can be done as a group or off to the side while guests eat or engage in other Mother Blessing activities.

You will need:

  • Dishpan Tub of warm water
  • Flower petals or essential oil for water:
    • rose petals, lavender buds, calendula, mint, lemon balm
    • rose essential oil, lavender essential oil
  • Towels
  • Nail clippers
  • Pumice stone or salt glow scrub
  • Mild Soap
  • Unscented Massage oil
  • Cornmeal (optional)
  • Mild moisturizer

How To Give A Foot Bath

  1. Fill a dishpan basin with warm water and fragrance the water with flower petals
  2. To start the foot bath first let both feet soak in the warm water for a minute or so. As you work through the foot bath, remember to work on one foot and let the other one continue to soak.
  3. Lather up the bar of soap and work on one foot while the other foot continues to soak.
  4. Place the first foot back in the water and wash the second foot
  5. Make sure both feet are completely rinsed off
  6. If mom has been having trouble reaching her toe nails, grab some nail clippers and trim them for her
  7. Massage each foot with some gentle pregnancy-friendly massage oil. Do one foot at a time while the other one soaks in the water.
    1. Rub a little oil onto your hands and very gently, begin at the heel (or even her calf) and slowly work your way to her toes in small circles.
    2. Massage each toe individually.
    3. Stroke your finger along each toe bone from her ankle to her toes
    4. Do the same thing for the spaces between her toe bones, ending at the spaces between toes and separating the toes
    5. Then do some nice long strokes with both hands from her calf to her toes
    6. If she has any requests, follow them, but remember to be very gentle
  8. Next, exfoliate the feet with some bath crystals, salt glow scrub or even a pumice stone. Rub gently in small circles giving extra attention to the heels and any other rough skin spots.
  9. After exfoliation, rinse both feet thoroughly and take both feet out of the water.
  10. You can dry each foot with a towel or use cornmeal to dry the feet. Drying the feet with cornmeal will impart a nice glow that is symbolic of luck and protection as she walks along her path.
  11. Moisturize each foot

Any extra supplies would make a great gift to the expecting mom — make sure her partner knows how to use them!


  • Keep in mind that not all herbs and essential oils used in grooming products are suitable for pregnancy. It is safest to err on the side of using unscented products, although lavender and rose are generally considered safe for the third trimester of pregnancy. If the mother-to-be is having any complications OR if you plan to use any products that contain herbs and essential oils other than rose or lavender, make sure you discuss the foot bath and the products you intend to use with her doctor or midwife first.
  • Mention your intention to give a foot bath ahead of time so the expecting mom knows not to wear pantyhose or tights!

Mother Blessing Hair Grooming Ritual

Hair grooming is another cornerstone of the Mother Blessing tradition. Get out a nice natural bristle hairbrush and give the new mom a relaxing hair brushing. You can finish it off by decorating her hair with flowers.

You will need:

  • (Natural Bristle) Hair Brush
  • If you like, you can put a couple drops of rose or lavender essential oil on the brush for an aromatherapy effect
  • Optional Hair Decorations:
    • Fresh picked flowers
    • Hair pins, hair combs, ribbons, etc

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What to do

I hope this is as self-explanatory as it sounds!  Fully brush her hair, massage her temples, stimulate her scalp. You can leave her hair down, put it up, or style it according to her wishes. Then decorate her hair with flowers, ribbons, hair combs or even a crown of flowers. If you have two or more people who want to be part of the grooming rituals, you can have one or more people groom her hair while others give her a foot bath.

You can make a crown of flowers by starting with crafting or florist wire.  Braid three strands of crafting wire leaving spaces in the braids for the flowers. Fashion the braid into a circle that will fit the mother’s head comfortably. Tie ends together with a ribbon. Then insert the flowers into the braids of wire. Or, for a simpler crown that probably won’t last as long, you can simply cut a small slit in the flower stems and chain them together, as in a daisy chain.

Make A Belly Cast for your Mother Blessing

Belly casting is an excellent way to preserve your pregnant belly in 3D and once the cast is set, you can decorate it! I am writing this editorial based on my own experience making a belly cast and from tips from friends who have done it too. There are many resources online where you can purchase a Belly Casting Kit, or even hire an artist to help you. Since belly casting requires bearing most of your torso, this may be best done in a small Mother Blessing. You can also make the cast ahead of time and decorate it at the Mother Blessing.

If a kit or artist sounds expensive, all you really need is:

  • impregnated plaster of paris strips (from a craft or art supply store) — at least two packages
  • some petroleum jelly or cocoa butter (to lubricate mom’s skin)
  • a bucket or bin of water
  • a big tarp, plastic sheet or old bed sheet

How To Make A Belly Cast

  1. Cut the Plaster of Paris Strips
    Unroll the impregnated plaster of paris strips and cut them into lengths that will cover the expecting mother’s belly. You will also need some strips for her sides and to criss-cross between her breasts (assuming you are including her breasts in the cast)
  2. Prepare the Casting Area
    A garage or basement is probably the ideal place to do a belly cast, unless you like cleaning plaster of paris out of your carpet. Lay down a tarp, plastic sheet, old bed sheet or layers of newspaper. Place a comfortable, but not fancy or expensive, chair in the center. If you like, cover the chair with a sheet too. Fill the bucket with warm water and place it near the chair. Have the cut plaster of paris strips nearby. Also, prepare an area where you will be able to leave the fresh cast to set overnight.
  3. Prepare the Pregnant Lady
    If she is modest, you should create the cast before the Mother Blessing. To get a good cast of the entire belly, she really should only wear an old pair of underwear (as in ready to be thrown away anyway) to keep plaster of paris out of her pubic region. Use a generous amount of petroleum jelly or cocoa butter moisturizer to lubricate her belly and chest and any other body parts you want to include in the cast (but don’t use too much as the plaster of paris strips may slip off). Don’t forget to get under her belly too. Get her comfortable in the chair and use another sheet to cover her legs and shoulders that aren’t being cast. You are welcome to get artistic about the position to make a belly cast in, but remember that the subject is pregnant and will have to remain comfortably in that position until the cast has set.
  4. The Goopy Mess
    Following the impregnated plastic of paris strips package directions, dip the plaster of paris strips into the bucket of water and apply them to the expecting mother. I recommend starting by placing two strips vertically from her arm pits to her hips as side bars for the cast. Then, criss-cross at least two strips between her breasts (or across them if she is large breasted). Next, apply the strips around her belly, making sure to overlap them sufficiently. Start at the bottom of her belly and continue up until you have covered her belly and breasts. Dip your hands in the water and spread the plaster evenly around her belly, smoothing out the strips. Repeat for a second layer. Mom will start to feel the inside of the cast drying, so work quickly to keep the first layer from drying too much before you get the second layer going. To finish ,neatly tuck in the sides and edges, making sure they will be smooth when the cast is removed. Dip your hands in the water and smooth the plaster over the strips once again, making sure that everything is nice and smooth over her belly and breasts.
  5. The long wait
    Now wash your hands and go get mom a nice cup of water with a straw so she can relax while you wait for the cast to harden. If you are her birthing partner, this will be good practice for remembering to keep her hydrated while she is in labor and putting up with her being cranky even though you are being really nice to her. Read the plaster of paris strips package directions as to how long it will take for the cast to set before it can be removed. When it is time, carefully pull the cast away from mom’s body — now we will find out how good of a job lubricating her belly you did!
  6. Running for the shower
    Lay the fresh cast down on newspaper to harden somewhere where it won’t get bothered by pets or other children. At this point, you should lay it down, “belly up”, and not try to display it. Tuck in or cut off any rough edges. Follow package directions for time to let it set.Now that you have the fresh cast set aside, help mom out of the chair. Get an old towel wet and try to get as much of the plaster off her as you can while she is still standing on the tarp or plastic sheet. Help her remove the old panties and throw them out. Help mom get to the shower without dripping too much plaster all over the place.
  7. Decorating
    Even a plain old belly cast is still astonishing, so you do not have to go any further. But if you like you can paint it with acrylic paints or decorate it with flowers, stones, shells, beads and even lacquer it for extra protection. This can make a fun Mother Blessing activity that doesn’t compromise the modesty of the expecting mom. If you use varnish around pregnant people, make sure it is in a well ventilated area or even outdoors.

Good luck and have fun!

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Mother Blessing Ritual: Belly Painting

Belly painting can be a fun way to celebrate momma’s big belly without going to the hassle of making a full-blown belly cast at a Mother Blessing. Traditionally, henna has been used to decorate a pregnant woman’s belly to distract her while she is in labor — so give her something fun to look at!

You will need:

  • Non-toxic body paints* OR
  • Natural Henna “tattoo” kit*
  • A Camera
  • Comfy chair for mom to sit in while everyone paints her belly

How to paint a belly:

I hope this is pretty self-explanatory. Read and follow the package directions for either the body paints or henna. Use stencils or go freehand … you can decide on a theme or just let everyone decorate!

Decorating suggestions include:

  • sun
  • stars
  • moon
  • sky
  • flowers
  • animals
  • Asian or middle east characters or symbols
  • female symbol
  • fetus in utero
  • plus spirals & art deco flourishes.

Make sure you take a picture to preserve your temporary work of art!


  • *Please do a patch test at least 24 hours before the Mother Blessing to make sure mom isn’t sensitive to body paints and/or henna.
  • Make sure you mention your intention to do a belly painting to the expecting mother so she knows to wear a separate top & bottom (skirt or pants). Dresses are not conducive to exposing that pregnant belly and decorating it!

Mother Blessing Ritual: Wrist Binding

This ritual is tremendously powerful. I find that it makes a nice conclusion to the main part of a Mother Blessing as everyone is joined together and then cut apart.

You will need:

  • A new package of cotton or hemp jewelry cord or yarn
    • You will need one long, unbroken piece of cord
    • You will need about 10 feet or more if you have a lot of guests
    • If you have a nice long piece of jewelry cord leftover from making a birthing necklace, it will do nicely!
    • However, do not use anything too strong as you will need to be able to cut it using one hand and you want it to be comfortable to wear.
  • Scissors

How To Perform the Wrist Binding Ritual

Have everyone, including the expecting mother, stand in a tight circle.  Each guest should wrap the cord around the wrist of the person to their left and say “From women, we are born into this circle, From women we are born into this world.” When everyone is linked together, everyone should hold hands and make a wish for an easy birth. You can also sing a song here. After the wishes and songs, pass a pair of scissors around the circle and have each person cut the person to their left enough of the cord to keep wrapped around their wrist, plus enough to tie it. If the cord is made of natural fibers (wool, hemp or cotton), make sure you leave the bracelet loose as it will shrink when you wash your hands and shower. Everyone should be instructed to keep making their wish whenever they look down at their bracelet and keep wearing the bracelets until the baby is born.


  • Since you will have one hand “tied” in the circle, have the scissors handy near where you will make the circle. We once had to waddle as a group over to a pair of scissors!
  • If any of your guests have occupations where they cannot wear jewelry or other “distractions” on their hands or wrists, it is OK for them to move the cord to their ankle and wear it there.
  • I would not recommend using embroidery floss or any type of light string. If the baby is late, the floss will get really tattered and even fall apart.

Mother Blessing Ritual: Meditation Stones

Have each guest decorate a stone with their wish for the mother while she is in labor. After they dry, each guest can present her stone to the expecting mother and explain her wish. The mom-to-be can use the stones to concentrate on and find strength from the wishes they represent while she is in labor.

You will need:

  • Palm-sized flat stones (from rock bed or craft store)
  • Paints & brushes (from craft or art supply store)
  • Spray Varnish (from a craft store)
  • A box or basket to hold the stones
  • A table or area for painting and an area where the paint can dry undisturbed

What to do

Everyone should pick a stone and paint it with a word or symbol that represents their wish for the expecting mother while she is in labor.  Allow the painted stones to air dry and, if time permits, use a spray varnish or other protective layer to keep the paints from chipping off. Make sure you do this in a well-ventilated area, away from any pregnant people!

If you like, you can have each person present their stone to the expecting mother and explain what their wish is.

How To Do A Mother Blessing

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Like any ceremony or gathering, a Mother Blessing should have an opening, body and a closing. I have made some suggestions on how to conduct your Mother Blessing, but there are no “rules.” Your ceremony should be guided by expecting mother’s own spiritual beliefs and lifestyle. Mother Blessings are usually conducted with participants seated in a circle which symbolizes strength and unity and so that everyone can participate equally (see Decorations for a Mother Blessing for more details).

Opening a Mother Blessing Blessingway

Welcome Your Guests and Explain Your Intentions
The Mother Blessing should start with a welcome greeting from the host. If your guests are new to Mother Blessings, explain what a Mother Blessing (blessingway description). Set out the ground rules that a Mother Blessing is meant to support the mother and positively prepare her for labor.

Smudging is done to purge negative energy and welcome positive forces. If you have your own purification technique, feel free to use it here. Otherwise, you can purchase a smudge stick and “purify” the person to your left and continue going clockwise in a circle. Alternately, you can also burn sage and/or cedar incense. If any of your guests are sensitive to smoke, you can also use a cedar aromatherapy mister for the same purpose. Any songs that welcome positive energy may be sung during the purification, but it is not required. In fact, smudging itself isn’t required, but it is a nice way to open everyone to the ceremony and invite positive energy to the group.

In addition to welcoming your guests, you should also welcome the spirits with an invocation or prayer. You may use any opening prayer or incantation from your own religion, create one yourself from scratch, or use the Poetry for a Mother Blessing page. Some of the forces you may wish to appeal to include:

  • angels of birth
  • spirit guides
  • your own higher powers
  • forces of nature
  • Great Mother
  • Heavenly Father
  • God/Goddess
  • Allah

…or whatever your belief system indicates. The invocation should be spoken in a slow and reverent, but eloquent tone making the room receptive to spiritual allies. Motherly offers more ideas for you.

To finish the blessingway opening, each guest should have a turn to introduce themselves and express their wish for the Mother Blessing and what they would like to contribute to it. A nice touch to add would be to have each guest also “introduce” her mother and grandmothers by sharing their names with the group. To transition into the main part of the ceremony, allow each guest to share a birth story, poem, song or instrument.

The Body of a Mother Blessing (Blessingway)

Transition into your Mother Blessing ritual activities. There is no set order for conducting each ritual, so you can do them in whatever order makes sense to you. You may wish to first tell your guests which rituals you will be performing. You can play music or sing songs during each activity.

Typically, grooming of the expecting mother is done first, so if you want to do a foot bath and/or hair grooming, start with those.

After the mother is feeling completely indulged, guests can present their gifts to her going clockwise around the circle. More information about gifts for a Mother Blessing.

Continue by creating a birthing necklace, birthing wreath, belly cast, belly painting, meditation stones or whatever activities you have prepared for the Mother Blessing. You do not need to do all of these! Choose the ones that appeal the most to the expecting mother and fit into the allotted time frame. But, if you have all day, by all means, try them all!

If you do the “wrist binding,” I find that a very nice note to end the main part of the ceremony as everyone is joined together and then cut apart.

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Closing a Mother Blessing

Once the expecting mother is has been showered with blessingway rituals, you can close the ceremony by first making sure that each guest has had a chance to share what they wanted to share with the expecting mother.

To close the ceremony, a song, poem or prayer sung/read together while holding hands can make a nice way to bring the group together one last time.

Thank your guests for coming and for the positive energy they imbued on the celebration; if you are giving favors such as a candle or handmade soap, make sure to ask your guests to take one and use it as a reminder of the wishes they’re supposed to keep making after the Mother Blessing is over.

Thank the helping spirits you invited during the invocation for their participation.

If you are having a meal or food, invite everyone to join. If not, simply say goodbye.

Sample Mother Blessing Format

Here is how my Mother Blessing went:

  • We snacked on appetizers as everyone arrived.
  • The host gathered us together in her living room where she had set the chairs in a large, but comfy circle.
  • She welcomed everyone and explained the Mother Blessing.
  • It was a nice summer day, so we went outside to decorate some meditation stones — and continued to snack!
  • While everyone was working on the stones, the host gave me the best foot bath ever!
  • While the stones were drying we went back inside to the living room where we continued by having everyone present their trinket and wish for the birthing necklace.
  • The guests presented their gifts to me which included everything from handmade blankets to a baby potty to a song played on a handmade flute and a poetry reading.
  • We thanked everyone for their contributions and asked them to take a candle with them with the request that they light it soon and continue making their wishes for my labor and delivery (which by the way went very well! I gave birth at home in a birthing tub and really couldn’t have asked for a more ideal birth! Plus I have the most adorable, loving and smart baby girl ever! I’m not proud much.)

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Baby Shower Menu and Recipes

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Baby Shower Menu and Recipes

Hosting a baby shower is a wonderful honor and serving delicious and creative food is an important part of creating a memorable gathering. Unless you are hosting an intimate gathering where a sit-down meal would be ideal, you might consider offering a buffet-style meal, with a variety of dishes for your guests to choose from. Set your foods around the room to encourage guests to mingle. If your planning the whole event, make sure to check out our comprehensive baby shower planning checklist!

Food for a Baby Shower: Traditional Showers

Late morning is a great time to host a baby shower. It is well before the mama-to-be needs her afternoon nap and brunch is such a versatile meal.

If you have an afternoon baby shower planned, try a lunch menu that focuses on ease and a variety of flavors, colors and textures for a visually and tastefully appealing meal. Entice your guests with the following recipes, which can all be assembled ahead of time.

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A variety of cheese and crackers, as well as bottled sparkling water and juices, would also make a nice addition to the menu. For an extra-special touch, order personalized baby shower cookies or cupcakes from a local bakery for dessert. You can find even more ideas over at Delish, one of our favorites.

If you are not hosting a virtual baby shower, scroll down to the Late Morning Baby Shower Brunch Menu and the Afternoon Luncheon Baby Shower Menu!


Baby Shower Food: Virtual

This is a tough one! Culturally, it is ingrained in us to celebrate with a meal, so serving food to guests of a virtual baby shower is something everyone asks about, but not everyone pulls off. Here are some ideas for you:

  • Skip it — it’s a virtual shower, no one will be offended at not being offered virtual food to eat (LOL)
  • Gift Certificates to popular coffee or tea houses (possibly can be delivered electronically / email)
  • Baby shower food favors such as candy bars, cookies or candies (requires mailing)
  • Online meal or grocery delivery services; expensive but would certainly impress your guests!

If you think of anything else, please let us know!

Late Morning Baby Shower Brunch Menu & Recipes

Afternoon Baby Shower Luncheon Menu & Recipes

Baby Shower Menu and Recipes written by Jill Abell. Jill is a food writer and mom living, eating, and playing in Central Oregon. Prior to becoming a mama, she owned Holistic Gourmet Cooking School at Lake Tahoe, California.

Baby Shower Brunch Recipes

Late morning is a great time to host a baby shower. It is well before the mama-to-be needs her afternoon nap and brunch is such a versatile meal.

A delectable variety of brunch recipes can be prepared ahead of time. We suggest serving a frittata, which is easy to assemble and serves a large crowd. They can be cooked ahead of time and served warm or at room temperature. Following are two very different frittata recipes that can easily be adapted to meet your needs and tastes. Feel free to substitute your favorite sautéed vegetables and cheese and add crumbled sausage, bacon or smoked salmon for an extra special dish.

In addition to these egg dishes, we suggest serving a savory bread, such as biscuits or croissants, with jam. A gourmet fruit salad, sweet bread or muffins, fruity “Party Punch,” tea and coffee complete this mouth-watering meal.

Late Morning Baby Shower Brunch Menu & Recipes

Feta, Sun-Dried Tomatoes And Basil Frittata Recipe

WebBabyShower feta sun dried tomatoes

Yield: 12

This is a very versatile dish and many substitutions can be made. Try using diced Roma tomatoes instead of the sun-dried tomatoes, cheddar cheese instead of feta cheese, and a variety of sautéed vegetables such as shitake mushrooms, red peppers and onions instead of the Kalamata olives.


  • 20 large eggs
  • ½ cup heavy cream or milk
  • 3 cups crumbled feta cheese (about 12 ounces)
  • 20 drained oil-packed sun-dried tomatoes, finely chopped
  • 1 cup fresh basil leaves, finely chopped
  • ½ teaspoon ground black pepper
  • 1 stick butter
  • 2/3 cup pitted Kalamata olives, chopped
  • 1 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese, preferably Parmigiano-Reggiano


  1. Preheat broiler.
  2. Whisk eggs and cream in large bowl to blend.
  3. Stir in feta cheese, tomatoes, basil and pepper.
  4. Using two 10-inch heavy nonstick skillets, melt half the butter in each skillet over medium-high heat.
  5. Add half egg mixture to each; do not stir.
  6. Cook until eggs start to firm and sides and bottom begins to brown, lifting sides occasionally to let uncooked egg run underneath, about 5 minutes.
  7. Sprinkle each with half the olives and Parmesan cheese.
  8. Transfer the skillets to the broiler and cook until the eggs start to puff and brown, about 2 minutes.
  9. Using flexible spatula, loosen edges and bottom of frittata. Slide out onto plate.
  10. Slice frittata into wedges.
  11. Serve warm or at room temperature.

Potato And Cheddar Frittata

WebBabyShower Potato Cheddar Frittata

Yield: 12


  • 20 large eggs
  • ½ cup heavy cream or milk
  • ¾ teaspoon salt
  • 1 ½ teaspoons black pepper
  • 2 garlic cloves, halved
  • ¾ cup olive oil
  • 2 cups diced onion
  • 4 cups sliced mushrooms, preferably shitake or cremini
  • 6 cups frozen shredded hash brown potatoes
  • 4 cups chopped fresh spinach
  • 3 cups grated cheddar
  • 1 cup diced tomato
  • 1 large avocado, pitted and sliced into 12 pieces


  1. Put oven rack in middle position and preheat oven to 375°F.
  2. Whisk together eggs, cream or milk, salt and pepper until just combined.
  3. Heat oil in two ovenproof 10-inch heavy nonstick skillets over medium heat.
  4. Put half of the garlic in each skillet and cook, stirring occasionally, until golden, about 2 minutes. Discard.
  5. Add half of the onions and mushrooms to each skillet.
  6. Cook until starting to brown, about 5 minutes.
  7. Add half the potatoes and spinach to each skillet and cook until beginning to brown, about 5-10 minutes.
  8. Pour half the beaten eggs evenly over potato mixture in each skillet and sprinkle cheese over eggs.
  9. Transfer skillets to oven and bake frittatas, uncovered, until set and just cooked through, about 15 minutes.
  10. Invert a plate over skillet and, holding them together with oven mitts, invert frittatas onto two plates.
  11. Sprinkle with chopped tomato and serve with avocado slices.
  12. Can be served warm or at room temperature.

Banana Coconut Muffins

WebBabyShower Banana Muffins

Yield: 8 muffins or 1 loaf

The coconut in this recipe is a surprising and delicious change to the standard banana bread recipe. Feel free to add sprinkled chopped nuts, such as macadamia or walnuts, to the batter and top of these before baking. Keep an eye on these towards the end of baking to make sure the coconut does not burn.


  • 1 ¼ cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 teaspoon baking powder
  • ¼ teaspoon salt
  • 2 very ripe bananas, mashed (about 1 cup)
  • 6 tablespoons unsalted butter, melted
  • ¼ cup white sugar
  • ¼ cup brown sugar
  • 1 large egg
  • ½ teaspoon vanilla extract
  • ¼ teaspoon almond extract
  • ¾ cup sweetened flaked coconut, slightly toasted in a dry skillet
  • Special equipment: a muffin tin with 8 (½ cup) muffin cups; paper liners or 1 loaf pan


  1. Put oven rack in middle position and preheat oven to 375°F.
  2. Line muffin cups with liners or grease loaf pan.
  3. Whisk together flour, baking powder and salt in a bowl.
  4. Whisk together bananas, butter, sugar, egg, vanilla extract, almond extract and ½ cup coconut in a large bowl until combined well,then fold in flour mixture until flour is just moistened.
  5. For muffins, divide batter among lined muffin cups and sprinkle with remaining ¼ cup coconut.
  6. For bread, spread batter in loaf pan and sprinkle with remaining coconut.
  7. Bake until muffins or bread are puffed and golden, about 25 minutes for muffins, 35 minutes for bread.
  8. Transfer muffins to a rack and cool slightly.

Cinnamon Blueberry Bread

WebBabyShower Cinnamon Blueberry Bread

Yield: 1 loaf


  • ¾ stick (6 tablespoons) unsalted butter, softened
  • 1 cup + ¼ cup packed light brown sugar
  • ½ cup whole milk
  • 1 large egg
  • 1 cup all-purpose flour
  • ½ cup whole wheat flour
  • 1 ½ teaspoons baking powder
  • 1 Tablespoon cinnamon
  • ½ teaspoon salt
  • 1 ½ cups blueberries (7 ½ oz)
  • 1 loaf pan


  1. Put oven rack in middle position and preheat oven to 400°F. Grease loaf pan.
  2. Whisk together butter, 1 cup of brown sugar, milk and egg in a bowl until well combined.
  3. Whisk together flour, baking powder, cinnamon and salt in a large bowl. Add milk mixture and stir until just combined. Fold in blueberries gently.
  4. Pour into loaf pan and sprinkle with remaining brown sugar.
  5. Bake until golden brown and a wooden pick inserted into center of a muffin comes out clean, 25 to 30 minutes.

Baby Shower Fruit Salad

WebBabyShower Fruit Salad

Serving Size: 16


  • 4 cups green grapes
  • 4 cups cubed pineapple
  • 2 cups blueberries
  • 2 cups peeled and cubed apples
  • 2 cups mandarin oranges
  • 1 cup Grand Marnier, Cointreau or other orange liqueur
  • 1 cup orange juice
  • 4 tablespoons sugar
  • 2 cups sliced strawberries
  • 2 cups sliced bananas


  1. Combine all ingredients, except strawberries and bananas, in large bowl.
  2. Cover and refrigerate up to 8 hours.
  3. Add strawberries and bananas right before serving.

Baby Shower Party Punch

WebBabyShower Party Punch

Yield: 16


  • 4 cinnamon sticks
  • 2 cups water
  • 3 cups orange juice
  • 1 cup pineapple juice
  • 2 liters 7-Up


  1. In a saucepan, simmer cinnamon with water for 5 minutes. Cool.
  2. In a large bowl, combine cinnamon mixture with orange juice and pineapple juice.
  3. Pour in 7-Up just before serving.

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Baby Shower Lunch Menu & Recipies

If you have an afternoon baby shower planned, try a lunch menu that focuses on ease and a variety of flavors, colors and textures for a visually and tastefully appealing meal. Entice your guests with the following recipes, which can all be assembled ahead of time.

Start with Donna’s Amazing Artichoke Dip on sliced fresh baguette accompanied by fresh vegetables from the Red, White and Orange Crudités Platter and the decadent Pesto and Feta Pinwheels. Follow these scrumptious appetizers with the colorful Parmesan, Tomato and Corn Pie or the Pasta Salad With Mozzarella, Sun-Dried Tomatoes and Olives. The fun and easy Baby Shower Toasts compliment the vegetable pie and pasta dishes.

A variety of cheese and crackers, as well as bottled sparkling water and juices, would also make a nice addition to the menu. For an extra-special touch, order personalized baby shower cookies for dessert.

Donna’s Amazing Artichoke Dip

WebBabyShower Artichoke Dip

Yield: 16


  • 3 cloves garlic
  • (2) 14 ounce can artichokes, drained (see note)
  • 1 ½ cups mayonnaise
  • 2 cups grated Parmesan cheese, preferably Parmigiano-Reggiano
  • 8-ounce can chopped green chillis (or roasted red peppers)
  • 1 dash cayenne pepper
  • 1 fresh baguette, thinly sliced diagonally
  • Optional: Sprinkle with chopped green onions or tomatoes just before serving.

Note: Be sure to purchase artichokes that are not marinated and are packed in water.


  1. Preheat oven to 350°F.
  2. Puree garlic in a blender or food processor.
  3. Add remaining ingredients, except baguette, and puree.
  4. Bake in an ovenproof dish for 20 minutes.
  5. Turn on broiler to brown the top.
  6. This dish can be served warm or at room temperature.

Pesto & Feta Pinwheels

WebBabyShower Pesto Feta Pinwheels


  • ½ package (17 ¼ ounce size) Pepperidge Farm Frozen Puff Pastry Sheets (1 sheet)
  • 8 ounces prepared pesto
  • 6 ounces crumbled feta


  1. Thaw pastry sheet at room temperature for 30 minutes.
  2. Preheat oven to 400°F.
  3. Unfold pastry on a lightly floured surface.
  4. Spread the pesto evenly over the pasty.
  5. Sprinkle with feta.
  6. Starting at one side, roll up like a jelly roll.
  7. Cut into 20 (½ inch) slices.
  8. Place 2 inches apart on baking sheet.
  9. Bake 15 minutes or until golden.
  10. Serve immediately.

Red, White & Orange Crudités Platter

WebBabyShower Red, White & Orange Crudités Platter

Yield: 12


  • 4 cups baby carrots
  • 3 large cucumbers, peeled, seeded and sliced into sticks
  • 1 large head of cauliflower, broken into small florets
  • 2 red bell peppers, seeded and thinly sliced
  • 1.5 cups prepared Ranch dressing
  • 1.5 cups prepared Blue cheese dressing


  1. Arrange vegetables on a decorative platter.
  2. Pour dressing into 2 bowls and arrange either on the platter or next to it.

Parmesan, Tomato and Corn Pie

WebBabyShower Parmesan Tomato Corn Pie

Yield: 6 to 8


  • 3 Tbsp. butter
  • 1 cup diced onion
  • 2 garlic cloves, minced
  • 3 cups fresh or frozen and defrosted corn kernels
  • 5 small zucchini, cut into matchstick pieces
  • 2 teaspoons salt
  • 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
  • ¼ cup packed chopped fresh basil
  • 3 to 4 vine-ripened tomatoes, cut into ½-inch slices
  • 1 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese, preferably Parmigiano-Reggiano
  • ½ cup Italian breadcrumbs
  • 2 tablespoons olive oil


  1. Preheat the oven to 375°.
  2. Heat a large skillet over medium-high heat.
  3. Melt butter and add onion and garlic. Sauté until starting to brown, 5-10 minutes.
  4. Add the corn, zucchini, 1 teaspoon of salt, ½ teaspoon of pepper and basil. Combine well.
  5. Pour the vegetable mixture into a 13 by 9-inch ovenproof baking dish.
  6. Cover with the tomatoes.
  7. Sprinkle with the remaining salt and pepper.
  8. In a small bowl, combine the cheese and the breadcrumbs.
  9. Sprinkle the mixture over the tomatoes and drizzle with the olive oil.
  10. Bake the pie for 30 minutes, or until the cheese is bubbling.
  11. Remove it from the oven and let it stand for 5 minutes before serving.

Pasta Salad With Mozzarella, Sun-Dried Tomatoes And Olives

WebBabyShower Pasta Salad Tomato Mozzarella

Yield: 8


  • ¾ cup olive oil
  • 1 cup drained oil-packed sun-dried tomatoes
  • ½ cup balsamic vinegar
  • 2 tablespoons drained capers
  • 2 garlic cloves, minced
  • 1 pound cooked fusilli pasta
  • 1 pint cherry tomatoes, halved
  • ½ cup minced pitted Kalamata olives
  • 2 cups drained artichoke hearts
  • 2 cups blanched chopped broccoli
  • 8 ounces fresh water-packed mozzarella cheese, drained, cut into ½-inch pieces
  • 1 cup (packed) fresh basil leaves, thinly sliced
  • 1 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese, preferably Parmigiano-Reggiano


  1. Blend first 5 ingredients in processor until sun-dried tomatoes are coarsely chopped.
  2. In a large bowl, combine dressing and pasta. Toss to coat well.
  3. Add remaining ingredients.
  4. This can be made 6 hours ahead and kept in the refrigerator. Bring to room temperature before serving.

Baby Shower Toast

WebBabyShower toast


Yield: 24


  • ¾ cup grated Parmesan cheese, preferably Parmigiano Reggiano
  • ½ cup mayonnaise
  • 1 small garlic clove, pressed or minced
  • ¼ tsp. grated black pepper
  • 24 slices good-quality wheat bread
  • Special Equipment: Cookie cutter in the shape of a stork, baby carriage or your favorite shape


  1. Heat the oven to 400°F. In a small bowl, combine the Parmesan, mayonnaise, garlic and pepper.
  2. Lay the bread on a work surface and cut each slice with the cookie cutter of your choice.
  3. Spread about 2 teaspoons of the mayonnaise mixture evenly onto each shape.
  4. Arrange them on a large baking sheet and bake until golden and bubbly, 5 to 7 minutes.
  5. Serve immediately.